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10 Men Describe The Specific Reason They Lost Interest In A Girl After A Date

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Over on r/AskMen, some Reddit users started discussing the specific reasons why they lost interest in a girl after the first, second or third date. Very interesting and intriguing! We all could learn a thing or two from this.


1. Let’s take a walk down the hall of shame:

  • Being boring.
  • Being stuck up.
  • Using her phone all the time during the date.
  • Fetishizing my Asian ethnicity (yes, it can happen to guys too).
  • Acting and talking arrogantly.

The following reasons were due to other issues, but the girls themselves were good:

  • Studying at a faraway college, and only visiting town every now and then.
  • She went through a recent break-up and didn’t feel ready to commit.
  • Moving to a different city or state.
  • Moving to a different country.
  • Home country was different (I met her while visiting that country).


2. The deal breakers:

  1. Bad hygiene
  2. Boring
  3. No purpose in life


3. The complainer/controller: By the time the first date ended, she had made 15 different complaints about me, and insisted that she’d change me. A couple that stand out, she didn’t like my beard. I shaved before the first date, and she kept complaining about it. The other, I had some logistics problems with my car that made it difficult for me to drive to her, and she both complained about that, and refused to drive to me, or even half way. The last straw: There was a lot of sex talk leading up to the first date, but when we actually met, she made it clear she was going home by herself, and while she did kiss me once, she didn’t do it a second time. Then she texted me later, complaining that I didn’t ask to come home with her, and then got offended when I mentioned making out.

The awkward/disinterested one: We met on Tinder, and she asked me to come to her apartment with food. When I got there she didn’t want the food, seemed to have no idea how to carry a conversation, and then started taking texts and phone calls. I left about 15 minutes after I arrived.

The clinger: After those last two dates, I publicly announced that I was taking a few months away from dating. This old friend from high school asked to hang out and commiserate as friends, but wound up trying to turn the situation romantic. I told her repeatedly that I wasn’t interested in a relationship, but against my better judgement, wound up sleeping with her. She spent the entire weekend attached to me, kept calling dibs on my time, and even though I was kind of blowing her off, tried to have the relationship talk with me. I said no, she didn’t believe me.


4. Seemed good at first but it turned out I had to ignore or overlook too many little annoying things in order to enjoy my time with her.
Sometimes you go into the first date blinded by desire, wishful thinking etc. As time goes your view of the situation clears up and you start seeing the problems. If there are too many red flags this will become apparent within a few dates and I decide to bail.


5. On the second date she casually mentioned her husband. When I expressed concern over this (“whoa, what the fuck?!”) she told me that she had married her best friend when they turned 18 because, like, what even is marriage? It’s just a social construct, man.


6. He’s just not that into you. If she has bad hygene, seems stuck up, seems boring, lied about her appearance, then the date wouldnt go past #1. If it goes to date #2, I usually think I see a little bit of possibility. But if I end it after that, its because I discovered that my suspicions were wrong. I just didnt feel a spark.


7. I wasn’t that into her in the first place and on the second date we were about do the nasty and she jerked my dick so hard that it hurt for like a week.


8. If I’m totally honest, I haven’t dumped many girls in my lifetime. I’ve been in many terrible relationships, but I’ve only ever dumped one girl and that was because she tried to control/manipulate me. Aside from that, I just like my girl to be human, have a pulse, and sleep on the other side of the bed to me, and put up with my shit..
Not really that picky.


9. Usually it’s because we just don’t connect, different world views, goals etc. Almost as common. She’s boring, can’t or won’t hold a conversation, gives one word answers. This indicates one of two things either she’s uninteresting or uninterested. Either way I’ll save us both the hassle.

She was late for our second date.

Was rude to the busboy, he dropped a fork or something on the floor while cleaning a table next to ours and she made some snide comment and then rolled her eyes and flinched every time he came by our table to help clear or serve plates.

One made an overtly racist comment and thought it was okay because “my dad got mugged by a ni**er.”


10. For guys, it can often feel like they are submitting themselves for judgement on the first couple of dates. I’m pretty much done with her if I feel I’m interviewing for the position of boyfriend. Instead, the early dates should be about having a good time together to see if you are compatible.


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