21 Things Women Will Just NEVER Understand About Being A Man

 

8. Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad. – Mechanical-one

9. Being complimented, for any reason, is weird. Men don’t get compliments as frequently as women do. And when we actually are complimented, we believe there might be malice or sarcasm within a compliment where none exist – simply because of the infrequency of it. – ViciousKnids

10. That when I (a white guy) take my (black) nephews out to the park, I get looks from women that are the “He is a sexual predator”. I have had police come up to me twice because women thought I was there planning on stealing someones kid even though I was there with my nephews. Another time, I was walking with my nephews and a women came up to me, looked at them and said “Do you know this man” they said yes and she said “Are you sure, he didn’t take you or is hurting you is he”. This is something that I have heard other guys deal with too, not just myself. – sta1994

11. The sort of “silent expectation.” It’s a difficult thing to articulate but it basically boils down to a sense of carrying everyday weight on ones shoulders in the absence of recognition or validation. As a man you have absolutely no implicit value. With women there is a sense of validation, support, and even celebration surrounding many aspects of your life. Men are not seen as having any sense of valuable identity, beauty, or character. A woman with a career and a college degree is a unique success and glowing individual who is to be celebrated. A man with a career and a degree is only ever “good enough,” to meet the expectation enough that you aren’t ridiculed or seen ostensibly as a failure. Women with high levels of sexual activity may be called slut behind their backs, but they are also celebrated as being empowered. Promiscuous men are called assholes and considered predatory for expressing their sexuality . Many gorgeous men spend their entire lives without ever being complimented once by anyone other than their mother. Patriarchal structures give men many societal advantages, but from a social psychological standpoint men tend to live lives devoid of positive reinforcement or celebration of the things they do or represent. If that makes any kind of sense? Not to whine or anything, just an observation. – CloudsTasteGeometric

12. I feel many women are unaware of how common it is for men to experience depression and other psychological difficulties. We just bury them down and let them fester because it is “unmanly” to have psychological problems. There is such a large stigma with it for men. So ladies and gents, if your friend or SO is acting unlike themselves, talk to them. Who knows you may even save a life. Also, as a 21 y/o guy, we gossip more than any girl knows. No one is safe when the gossip talk hits the table. – roobopp

13. Gender stereotypes exist for us. I’m a stay at home dad. I’ve been called terrible things all because I don’t work like a man should. This happens even though I also collect VA disability because of injuries sustained while in the USMC. I’ve been told I’m not a good role model for my son. Called a degenerate, even though I’m a college graduate. I’ve even been told I’m not a real man. It’s really really depressing. – lolroflpwnt

14. The expectations that we carry all the time. We have to provide physically, financially, emotionally, and mentally for our families. We have to bust ass at work where we provide physically, financially, emotionally and mentally for our bosses and customers. We have to buck up if we are down because it can’t effect our work or the whole thing crumbles. We can’t really call in sick without being ridiculed with having a ‘man cold”. We are expected to be everyone’s rock and support system when there isn’t much for us in terms of coping for that kind of dependancy. I get stressed and bogged down but I can’t let it show to much because no one really cares. My wife tries but she has her own heap of problems that I’m trying to help her figure out and be their to support her because that’s my job as husband. There are a few people that I would bury a body for and those few people I can actually trust with me breaking down and them helping put me back together. This is why guy’s relationships are so strong. We have seen each other at our weakest points and our strongest and usually get through rough patches by working it out with them. Sure our SO’s are consulted as well but men and women think things differently. Every once in a while I get so tightly wound with everything that I just let out a good cry and get back to it. My wife wonders why I take 30 mins or so in the washroom, it’s just quiet time. I don’t get bothered, I just get alone time to be with myself and my thoughts. I’m just rambling at this point but yeah, stresses we deal with. – JonnyGoodfellow

 

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