Buzzworthy Love & Sex 21 Things Women Will Just NEVER Understand About Being A Man 26 min read 3 2,692 15. Wanting time on our own has utterly no reflection on NOT wanting to spend time with them. Can’t tell you how many times someone’s taken it personally that I just fancied my own company. – SwagVonYolo 16. That as men, we also want to feel sexually wanted too. I had an ex that was horrible, she’d complain about me not making it apparent enough and then she’d complain about me making it too apparent. She’d hate if I was too spontaneous but would then accuse me of being too predictable. Meanwhile, she only twice ever told me I was sexy or that she really wanted me… And that was exclusively in the first month. After a while it was only ever me pursuing her, and her not even bothering to care about pursuing me. After a year and a half I realized how low my self esteem had fallen in that regard and started to emotionally disconnect from her. – JosephND 17. I don’t think some women realize how terrifying it can be for some men to approach them, for any reason. I have thought for awhile that I suffer from social anxiety, for instance there is this girl that I like on Facebook, and have met several times, usually at get togethers with friends. Anyways I like this girl, and I am fairly certain if I asked her out she would say yes. But I don’t, I can’t. I have had her as a friend on Facebook for several years, and the only time I have talked to her was when I thanked her for wishing me a happy birthday. You see, I am afraid to even talk to her, not because she scares me, but because I don’t want to say the wrong thing and scare her away, so I continue to do nothing. Fearing, and stressing over rejection. It makes me feel so small a man. – 5emi 18. The number of times you put up a front and choose not to complain about things, because men aren’t supposed to complain. – zygga 19. That sexism is a double-edged sword. With the success of female emancipation during the last century, western society as a whole became more aware of the prejudice and discrimination women are facing, and thus gradually worked towards providing women with equal opportunities and respect. Awareness has been raised, and the whole societal environment changed because of that. However, because men previously had superior roles assigned by birth, it was generally assumed that they have no problems to complain about because of their given “privilege”. But with a change in the societal environment, the public view and treatment of men should change accordingly. We have emotions and feelings too, and the desire to express them lies within our nature. Not every man is a predator of offender by default, and while i don’t want to deny the atrocities committed by my ancestors, prejudice and discrimination are universal, and not bound by gender. The war is over. We no longer have to hide our burden in order to ensure survival, but we do need encouragement to break with these traditions for ourselves. – Dunkelritter 20. I don’t think women understand how much of a grind being a man can be. It can just wear you out, mentally, physically, and emotionally. You just kinda feel disposable. As an American man the life cycle is basically: Go to school for 16 or more years, get a job, work your whole life, die. Sometimes it seems like no matter how hard you work, there is very little recognition, celebration, or validation for your efforts. It’s just expected of you. And if you don’t like it, then your boss, or wife, or whatever will find someone who does. You’re always expected to be able to perform, whatever the task. And if you fail, you’re a disappointment. And you can’t really express frustration/emotion either. Unless it’s to someone very close to you… But even then sometimes all you get is a “sucks bro”. Or if you don’t meet certain milestones, you’re a failure. No degree? No house? No car? Don’t have a good job? Why not? I don’t think I’m speaking for others when I say there’s a real fear that if you’re not ‘successful’, you won’t be considered attractive as a mate. And as a man it’s “your job” to take the initiative on everything and it’s incredibly taxing. Especially when every relationship you’ve had has involved you being hurt. Whether it’s rejection, lying, abuse, manipulation, etc. Of course I can only speak out of my own experiences… But, after awhile sometimes I just kinda want to give up. – MeatCogitator 21. Guys have zero emotional support structure. Like, fuck. Anytime I try to tell anyone I have real emotions or opinions I get shot down to the point where I don’t really feel safe talking to anyone anymore. It’s easily the largest problem in my life, and from what I understand, I lot of guys have to deal with it through out their entire teenage/young adult life. – DarkLorde117 CLICK TO THE FIRST PAGE . . . Pages 1 2 3